In recent weeks, I’ve become aware of a growing community of very vocal activists for something I have come to know is called the Men’s Rights Movement.
The voices which I have come across are entirely negative and using misinformation and panic over… I really don’t know what they’re so panicked about, really.
Listening to these people talk is like listening to the most radicalized among any community. They are so very upset, that the message gets lost in the unrelated vitriol.
In doing a bit of digging, I was able to find five points that seem valid:
Demanding that male survivors of domestic abuse and sexual assault to be taken seriously.
Changing the narrative about statutory rape of males as “sexy.”
Advocating Intactivism (activism against the practice of circumcision)
Protecting genuinely economically disadvantaged people who actually lack the means to pay child support from entering our for-profit prison system.
Doing away with gender bias in child visitation considerations.
I’m all for these.
No qualifiers or commentary; these are worthy ideas.
Now that actual merits have been set aside, I can take on the overwhelming bulk of what the movement has to say, which is:
“WE HATE WOMEN.”
That’s really the underpinning of everything (apart from the above mentioned exclusions)
“WE HATE WOMEN.”
“We hate fat women, we hate powerful women, we hate women who want a place in political discussions, we hate women who expect child support, we hate women with the nerve to turn in their rapists, we hate women who recognize that all non-consensual sex is rape, we hate women who prefer an egalitarian view of their familial roles, we hate women who expect us to actively participate in maintaining healthy relationships, we hate how (or even that) women talk, and we hate women who fail to recognize that they are sex objects.”
I’m sure that all of you could grow this list to pages upon pages long, but this is a reasonable start, I hope.
All things considered, this group feels a lot like the Tea Party movement to me. There may be a handful of reasonable people with a handful of reasonable ideas, but it if reasonable ideas were supposed to be the point, they have been supplanted by a cacophony of radical ones. I don’t think this movement has the power to do much besides affecting the further corruption of the ignorant. -The fear I have is just how large a group of people “ignorant” describes.
Remember, my sisters, they don’t own us, they don’t own our voices, and they don’t own our bodies. We have come too far to let a temper-tantrum en masse to destroy what so many have given so much for.
Let’s take time to give love to those men who believe, as we do, that the world only works when women are truly counted as equals.
All my love,